“I love cock!” that’s a bold statement; I shouted it out in one of my podcasts :-). Don’t think for a minute that was easy for me. It takes courage to say out loud what we love, what we desire and what we yearn for. Dirty talk during sex is exciting!
Sometimes when I am worshipping my partner’s lingam (penis) by massaging it with my sweet and shy expression, I feel I want to get naughty (breaking my own vanilla pattern) and tell him how I fucking love his cock. How hot is that, hm?!
Is hasn’t always been that way. Those words like “I love your cock” or “fuck me harder” used to get stuck in my throat. I just couldn’t get those sexy sounding words out of my mouth. I used to be anxious about expressing my sexual being. So I just stayed quiet; maybe the most I could get out of my throat was a little moan.
Do you know this stuckness? Do you feel you aren’t confident enough to fully show your sexual expression? You feel that you aren’t able to show your sexual being through sound, through mime, through your body’s movement and also not through your words?
A study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationship found that the more comfortable we are talking about sex, the more satisfactory our sex lives will become.
If you are a quiet, introvert lover and you feel that there must be more to it, I tell you, there is a way of becoming more active: Learn to become a dirty talk master and overcome that stuckness. You not only turn your partner on, but yourself too.
Sexuality comes in so many diverse expressions, and being able to communicate your own unique expression can be tremendously fulfilling.
Plus your partner won’t be able to stop thinking about you, when you send him a naughty SMS while he is at work. It’s mental foreplay, and super hot for keeping your juices in your relationship flowing. How does that sound? Are you in?
Yes? Then keep reading – I ran 
my fingers hot to deliver to you the ultimate guide to conscious dirty talk during sex. Why conscious? Just because it’s more fun to do things with presence, in my opinion.
So what are you going to learn?
- Become a dirty talk master step-by-step
- How to talk dirty and stay true to yourself
- How to keep the attraction alive
- How to build up sexual tension
1. Start Slow
So, you would like to engage more but you are a little shy and afraid. There is a word you would like to say, but it’s simply stuck and you have no clue how to get it out.
Maybe you are already a master of dirty talk text messages? But you just haven’t gotten to the point of spitting those thoughts and words out in a hands-on situation. Don’t worry, we’ll get to that. For now be grateful for already having those thoughts.
Maybe you have a few fantasies but haven’t taken action on the dirty talk front yet? Question: Do you believe you’re a proper girl, or guy? Our education has taught us not to speak frankly. But looking at children we know exactly how they are just straightforward with what they want and desire. There is a playfulness that we seem to lose over the years of learning how to eat properly, speak properly and act properly.
Start by writing down new words and phrases and try them out by whispering (by yourself first). Once you feel a bit more ready, start texting those phrases to your lover or whispering them into the phone (a voice message can be an easier level for dirty talk too.)
