- Become a dirty talk master step-by-step
- How to talk dirty and stay true to yourself
- How to keep the attraction alive
- How to build up sexual tension
1. Start Slow
So, you would like to engage more but you are a little shy and afraid. There is a word you would like to say, but it’s simply stuck and you have no clue how to get it out.
Maybe you are already a master of dirty talk text messages? But you just haven’t gotten to the point of spitting those thoughts and words out in a hands-on situation. Don’t worry, we’ll get to that. For now be grateful for already having those thoughts.
Maybe you have a few fantasies but haven’t taken action on the dirty talk front yet? Question: Do you believe you’re a proper girl, or guy? Our education has taught us not to speak frankly. But looking at children we know exactly how they are just straightforward with what they want and desire. There is a playfulness that we seem to lose over the years of learning how to eat properly, speak properly and act properly.
Start by writing down new words and phrases and try them out by whispering (by yourself first). Once you feel a bit more ready, start texting those phrases to your lover or whispering them into the phone (a voice message can be an easier level for dirty talk too.)
Your voice is your mature turn on factor in the dirty talk world. There is a difference if you just say your fantasies in a normal tone out loud, of if you slow down, with presence, and use a mystical calmness with a confident intentional emphasis. You may use your moans, groans, sighs, whispering, or in some cases, even screaming. The sound can be commanding, harsh, sweet, submissive, uncertain and everything in between. Most importantly, try to be authentic.
How fast you talk is up to you. Experiment with what feels good to you (and to the one receiving, by watching their response). If you are physically engaging with your partner while you are talkin’ dirty make sure https://hookupdate.net/pl/katolickie-serwisy-randkowe your body reflects your words. Meaning – be engaged in your body, your body needs to match your words. It would be a super turn off if you are sitting on the couch chilling out, your lover is at the other end of the room, and you suddenly start talking dirty. Make’s sense, right?
Start with a soft-core dirty talk
Again, start slow. No master falls from heaven, we all gotta start somewhere. Which is what you’ve already got: YOU! Start with what comes naturally from you. Please don’t use words that make you (or your partner) uncomfortable; work your way up if you both want to.
There are usually two types of dirty talk: soft-core and hard-core. Soft-core is obviously softer; this may include more sweet meanings, which makes it a very approachable and easy entry point for beginners. In the beginning, you simply stick to words that are familiar to you.
Who says dirty talk during sex has to be vulgar? Again, all this has to be comfortable for both of you. Then you gently and slowly add the more naughty words and phrases here and there during sex.
Like: “I love the things you do with your tongue” “You are the sexiest thing I’ve ever seen!” “I want you”
In the end the words are just ways of connecting with one another. Most of our communication doesn’t work via the words you use – body language, the tone of your voice and facial expressions are way more important.
