If you’ve tried online dating elsewhere in the past (Tinder doesn’t count), you’ve probably noticed that filling out the questionnaires is THE WORST. The questions get way too fake deep for my liking, and honestly, are just begging for people to lie. Do you think the cheaters of the world are actually going to say “Doesn’t describe me at all” when asked if they cheat? Do you think the world’s most sensitive, quick-tempered crybaby (raises hand) wants to admit to constantly picking fights? Hell no. There’s no question that that stuff is important, but I just don’t think this method will produce the most accurate information on how someone actually acts in a relationship past the honeymoon phase.
Good news: Building a profile on OkCupid is genuinely fun. They’ll ask things like “Would you rather share a kiss in a tent or a kiss in Paris?” or “Would you rather go to a music festival or sporting event?” You’ll get to say what your ideal partner’s answer would be as well. (You’ll also answer the basics about smoking, drinking, political preferences, religion, and all that good stuff.)
I’m big on aesthetics and design when it comes to dating sites (I completely roasted AdultFriendFinder about it), and OkCupid is exactly what I want: organized, minimalistic, with all features obvious and labeled so that you don’t have to click around to see what the options are
And that’s just to start. After answering those and getting your profile open for business, they also have tons of questions to answer directly on your profile if you want to get even more specific with preference. Questions like “Do you make your bed every day?” or “How long do you want your next relationship to last?” allow OkCupid to discover your habits without making you think too hard. You’re able to showcase all aspects of your dynamic as a partner without feeling the need to lie. There are also spaces for you to answer prompts about the last shows you binged, your favorite music artists, your talents, etc.
The required set of questions only takes about five minutes to complete, and then you’re ready to start playing Bachelor or Bachelorette. You’re not bombarded with notifications or emails, which I was extremely thankful for. The top nav is extremely clean and only gives notifications for likes and messages – unlike other sites where people can like you in general, like your photo, send a wink, send a smiley face, send a gift, and whatever TF else these sites think is necessary. OkCupid gets major points for how user-friendly it is.
OkCupid is also one of the best places for introverts and self-proclaimed geeks to find a kindred soul. The prominence of social justice-related questions has drawn an open minded crowd, creating a safe space that relieves the pressure to be perfect. The opportunity for badges on your profile is a fun way to express yourself: #IStandWithPP, Game of Thrones, and “nerd” are a few of the things you can pin to the top of your profile to attract other users who get you. (Fun fact: Game of Thrones echat com has been mentioned over two million times in user profiles. Automatic conversation starter.)
Woke level: 100
Finding a hottie only to find out you disagree on everything is the most awkward bummer ever. Other sites only ask one question about that stuff, which just isn’t enough. If you’re woke, liberal, and horrified by the dumpster fire that is our current political climate, this is the site for you. Right wingers, you should just exit now and sign up for eharmony – it has history of learning conservative.
