- Suit (check)
- Approach the girl (check)
- Golden self-intro (check)
Some guy overhears the two of you talking in English and steps in from the sidelines. Only this time it’s not a Japanese guy. It’s an American guy just like you! And he’s wearing a suit just like you!
“Hey,” he says, “I heard you say you were from Wisconsin. My second cousin’s great aunt’s uncle bought cheese from there once.”
He then turns to the woman you’re talking to and starts firing Japanese at her. She almost falls over backward in surprise. This random American at a bar is not only wearing a suit and didn’t use one of those corny pick-up lines from a phrasebook…
So it happens again. Just like with the Japanese guy from earlier. The American guy and your dream girl speak in Japanese, and you can’t understand what they’re saying. You have been shut out AGAIN! Two more people at that bar forget you exist and leave you standing there like an oaf AGAIN! It’s not long before you feel that tap on your shoulder again.
“No,” you reply. But instead of moving to the side and letting him pass, you step past him on your way to the door. It’s time to turn in for the night.
So what went wrong? You did everything I told you to do. You wore a suit, you went to legitieme Aziatische dating sites a foreign-friendly bar, you gave the golden self-intro, and you even struck up a few conversations! But one fact remains…
THEY SPEAK JAPANESE!
And this, dear readers, is the secret to picking up girls in Japan. If you really want to land your ideal girl, your chances skyrocket if you can speak Japanese. And the more fluent you are the more unstoppable you will be. If you rely on the English ability of the girl, she had better be native-level fluent (extremely rare); otherwise the same thing will happen over and over again: some guy will overhear people speaking English, swoop in, say something innocuous, and then switch to Japanese and steal the girl from you.
The reason guys who speak Japanese are the most successful with Japanese women is because people are more comfortable speaking in their native tongue. It’s not hard to understand that talking in a foreign language can get tiring after a while. On top of that, some girls, even though they speak a little English, can’t truly relax and say what they want to say because of their inexperience with the language. With a limited vocabulary, they’re restricted to only certain kinds of conversation topics…because that’s all they know! Therefore, even though it seems like the girl is excited to talk about traveling, her face is probably lighting up because it’s something she has the ability to talk about in English, not because she actually likes talking about traveling.
Actually, she’s probably had that same conversation with every single non-Japanese person she’s met that night because that’s all the English she knows! No wonder it’s so easy for Japanese speakers to step in and sweep them away!
Which conversations are the most lively, the ones in English with non-Japanese present, or the ones in Japanese with non-Japanese present?
Speaking Japanese is what makes you a real prospect in the eyes of a beautiful Japanese woman. Don’t believe me? Next time you come to Japan, take a look around, listen to the conversations. Ninety nine percent of them are in Japanese! Take a look at the non-Japanese guys talking to the girls. Are they speaking English or Japanese? Look at the different groups of people conversing. Study the expressions on Japanese people’s faces and decide which language they feel most at ease with. Of course! It’s Japanese!
