Why would posting on social media do that? It’s not like you’re going to sit there and say “Hey, let’s get back together” or “Hey, you look really really sexy,” based on one post. You’re just not going to say that stuff (and it’s a good idea not to)!
But what you might do is maybe comment on a photo, or like a photo, or at the very least, watch his stories.
And if you do, it serves as a form of validation for him, a bit of attention from you that is going to give a little boost to his self-esteem.
Of course, you don’t have to give him that. If you use a No Contact rule to encourage him to miss you and regret not being with 
you, you won’t respond to anything, including social media content.
Here’s the thing that most people know perfectly well, but never talk about when it comes to social media and posting on it.
You rarely go onto someone’s Facebook profile and see exactly what they look like when they wake up in the morning.
You often see them at their most exciting moments, and sometimes people try to manufacture these moments as they go throughout the day.
They crop out the ugly building in the corner of the photo, they add filters or use software to brighten the photo, they add hashtags to make you think they’re having an amazing time. They take 20 different shots to get one good one. They think, hey, I look pretty cool right now, I’m going to take a selfie.
They will never do that when they’re doing something embarrassing or uncool – when they’ve just woken up, or they’re hungover or sick.
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The thinking here is that by presenting our best self to the world, it’s going to boost our self-esteem. Likes, comments and shares will do this.
But perhaps the biggest paradox is yes, it can actually boost our self-esteem but in turn it lowers our self-worth.
Have you ever looked at a cute guy or a cute girl on a social media profile or a dating app and thought to yourself, man, I would really like to date that person.
You set up a date and then you see them in person and they look nothing like they looked on their profile.
They don’t show you the real them. You’re making a date with someone based on how you perceive them to be.
They understand that and they like it, because yes, maybe they have a pretty face, but they consider themselves to be overweight, so they hide that fact.
Now what’s interesting is when you take a guy that’s going through a breakup, it’s not really a stretch to say that one of the biggest common sides of a breakup is sadness and negative thoughts – they feel extremely bad about themselves.
So they’re going to find ways to post really awesome pictures of themselves to boost their self-esteem. But this in turn lowers their self-worth, which they will sometimes blame you for.
Behavior #4- They Seek Validation From Others
They want to show their friends and family what they’re up to, sure, but the true reason, as deep down we all know, is that we really like it when people like or comment on our photos, or they say something nice to us.
So it’s not a far stretch from your ex who’s going through this breakup, who is feeling less loved and valued, to post things to seek validation not from you, but from everyone else.
