I’m going to simply place this available to you: I wouldn’t exactly be a hot commodity to Koreans if I were single in Korea. Even though this is simply a concept of mine, i believe i’ve seen couples that are korean inside the previous 4-5 months to feel just like it is true. Here’s why…
Korean women can be seen by Korean guys as porcelain dolls- pretty, fragile, slim, soft, nutritious, virtuous, and skinned that is extremely fair. Ladies here don’t strive to attain tanned, nicely nicely toned and athletic figures that feamales in the U.S. do. To the contrary, they make an effort to be really slim and soft, rather than in every means muscular or tan. Because of this, personally i think that I could snap any of the women in half over my knee if I were ever caught in a cat fight here in Korea. Maybe not that I would personally, though, of course.
You will always find that the man has when you see couples in public here
their hands round the girl, is holding her bag, their shopping bags, and all sorts of the while she’s stiletto that is wearing (i really could compose a complete post on Koreans putting on stilettos at all times during the time, while sightseeing, even though putting on sweat pants, but i am going to save yourself that for another time). A korean instructor of ours told us that the males right here definitely like to dote to their girlfriends. They constantly carry the woman’s bag and generally are making contact that is physical them for some reason all the time. Our instructor also told us that Korean ladies whine great deal, and therefore their boyfriends think it is cute… actually, females? Really?!
We shall acknowledge that after We see those kinds of couples whenever I’m back in the us, We roll my eyes. Here, nonetheless, it is more widespread to see. In reality, its normal for partners to wear… brace yourself… matching clothes. I’m maybe perhaps not referring to a vow ring or matching bracelets, I’m speaking about matching black colored and yellowish PLAID coats, or matching rugby shirts with matching shorts. (Jason and we really perform a game title centered on this event ( many thanks Britt!); each and every time we come across a matching couple, we need to function as very first someone to say “same-sies” and now we arrive at strike the loser).
Even though it’s hard from time to time, we don’t choose to judge others centered on the things I may consider tacky, and so I have experimented with explanation with myself why this might be the scenario in Korea:
- We now have heard from other Koreans and foreigners that having a girlfriend or boyfriend isn’t as prevalent as it’s straight straight back in the usa. In reality, certainly one of our Korean buddies is enthusiastic about the notion of finding a girlfriend- that’s all he wishes but he can’t appear to get one. This indicates if you ask me that since dating just isn’t as casual right right here, while you are in a relationship it is made by it that much more special. Men wish to be sure that everybody knows the lady is theirs, so essentially they have been peeing on the territory. Perhaps maybe Not sure if it warrants putting on matching jackets and tops, but hey, to every their particular.
- Korean parents are notoriously strict in terms of their childrens’ partners. Arranged marriages nevertheless occur right right here too, which claims a complete great deal concerning the tradition by itself. I’m able to only suppose secret relationship is common right right here, and therefore once the partners are call at general public it could be the only time that they may be together. Hence, they’ve been as affectionate towards each other if they had the chance as they would be in private. Yet again, it is a concept based entirely on my findings, plus in no real means fact.
- Due to the fact that ladies in Korea are incredibly slim, fragile-looking, and simply take pride in searching pretty all the time (and they are constantly using 4-inch heels) i really believe that this creates an extremely feminine and delicate image of females; a graphic that produces the person desire to nurture and care for the girl who can’t raise 15 pounds. Hence, they enjoy holding their shopping bags along with other things that are heavy.
- A few our buddies right right right here in Korea, whom instruct English and also have Korean friends, additionally told us another interesting relationship powerful that I ended up being thinking really was intense. Whenever a lady is in a relationship, she will not speak with virtually any dudes, at all. Evidently it really is an indication of respect to her boyfriend (whom appears become extremely insecure and overly jealous) and also this means she can’t also communicate with her guy buddies anymore. I continue to have yet to verify this with any Koreans myself, however it is interesting that when We heard I started noticing that couples are never with anyone else about it. These are generally either alone, that will be practically all for the partners we see, or they truly are possibly with another few. Perhaps this may additionally help explain why relationships look therefore different right right here.
That I have been noting in my head since the moment we arrived here like I mentioned earlier, these are just my thoughts that stem from a few observations. We find these social points become fascinating and We additionally love individuals viewing and I also have always been quite good if I may say so, which makes me a great researcher for this type of subject at it. Certainly One of my favorite quotes comes from an episode from Intercourse in addition to City: “Some people do arts and crafts. We judge.” Maybe maybe maybe Not that we judge individuals, but we report the thing I see and hear. Just sayin’.